I recently ended a relationship. Not because of betrayal or drama, but because I saw the truth clearly: personality incompatibility that would only compound over time.
The easy path would have been to focus on what was wrong, what didn’t work, why she wasn’t right. But I’ve learned something through years of inner work: if I attracted this person, there was a reason. And that reason deserves acknowledgment.
The Practice: Staying in Gratitude While You Exit
I use a modern version of Ho’oponopono—four phrases I repeat while holding the person in my mind:
- I’m sorry.
- Please forgive me.
- I love you.
- Thank you.
This isn’t about them. It’s not reconciliation. It’s about staying aligned with truth: there were good moments, there were lessons, and I attracted this experience for my own growth.
The “thank you” isn’t performative. It’s genuine recognition that even incompatible relationships serve us. They show us what we need to see—about ourselves, about what we want, about what we’re ready for next.
What This Practice Is NOT
Let’s be clear:
- Not a doormat move: You’re not tolerating what doesn’t work. You’re leaving because it doesn’t work.
- Not suppressing truth: You saw reality clearly. That’s why you’re exiting.
- Not forcing connection: You’re choosing disconnection with appreciation instead of resentment.
What It Actually IS
This is about sovereignty in endings. It’s the discipline of holding two truths simultaneously:
- This relationship isn’t right for me
- I’m grateful it happened
It’s choosing to:
- Acknowledge what was real and good
- Honor the lessons embedded in the incompatibility
- Take responsibility for attracting this experience
- Release them to their path with genuine love
Not because they earned it. Because you understand nothing arrives by accident.
Why This Matters
The goal isn’t to be spiritual. It’s to be complete.
When you can leave cleanly—seeing what’s true, acting on it, and genuinely thanking the experience as you go—you integrate the lesson immediately. You don’t carry the relationship forward as a complaint or a wound. You don’t spend energy on “what was wrong with them.”
You stay open. You stay powerful. You extract the gift and move forward lighter.
The Real Work
As Louise Hay taught: “Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
Sending love outward—even to relationships that are ending—isn’t about the other person. It’s about refusing to harden your own heart. It’s about staying in alignment with the understanding that you attracted this for a reason, and gratitude keeps that lesson clear.
This practice is how I stay in integrity with my own growth. It’s choosing appreciation before resentment has a chance to form.
Because at the end of the day: choosing love isn’t about their worthiness. It’s about your freedom.
I love Life and Life definitely loves me XDDD
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