After breaking up with my first girlfriend at age 38, the dust settled and a truth emerged that I had missed for decades: I was always worthy of love. My relationship didn’t define my value; it just happened to be the mirror I was looking in. I had spent so much time thinking a relationship/sex was something so awesome and so sacred that it would completely change my life—spoiler: it didn’t (and yes getting laid is fun)
For a long time, my partner viewed my jealous or insecure parts as “errors”—bugs in the system that needed to be fixed”. But here is what I discovered:
The 100+ Rule I realized I have over 100 parts of me that are loving, caring, and supportive. Why was I letting one or two some people may consider ‘problematic’ define my entire worth? Maybe the real issue is having a supportive partner (crazy idea, I know, I got carried away ;p)
Curiosity over Repair It is okay to get to know your “imperfect” parts, but do it from a place of curiosity, not from a desperate need to “fix” yourself to earn a seat at the table and be loved
Whole-Person Love I broke up with her because I realized I deserve to be loved as a whole person, not as a project. There a was a part of me that really wanted this relationship to work but the silent voice inside me said: “yes but not at any cost” I like to say that my parts can act like assholes sometimes—but they’re my assholes!
The Bottom Line: You are love. You always were, and you always will be. Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of that truth, because the people around us might try to use our insecurities as leverage to keep us small.
I love Life and Life definitely loves me! XD
Life Loves Me 