The surrender formula

Dear Reader,

I don’t know how about you but I used to not enjoy the concept of surrender and letting things go. I was always convinced that there was a virtue in hustling, working hard and ‘makin’ it’.

Who would care about sleep if it takes time out of your productive time?
The people who love themselves do care.

In the recent years I have turned on the knob on loving and taking good care of myself. I finally understand how and why surrender does work.

Let me explain the steps:

1. You are inspired to get/achieve something. The idea of it feels good and you do believe it would be an enchancement in your life
2. You go for it. You create a plan, your attend the course take the risk, ask that person out. You don’t get discouraged with initial lack of success, you welcome challenges and learn and grow from them.
3. You start trying too hard. It doesn’t feel right anymore. You overextend and it doesn’t feel natural anymore and enjoyable. You may still do it for some time even long time believing that once you push through the discomfort it’s all going to be worth
4. You let go cause it just feels bad
5. The thing appears in your life in totally unexpected way and circumstances.

I used to believe in points 3 and 4 until I realised they are unnecessarry. Now I always put myself first and the moment things don’t feel right and I feel like overextending myself I let go. Time and again Life has showed me that it has better ways and plans for me that I could ever imagine and all I have to do is to let go and allow good things and opportunites appear in my life.

The moment you start trying too hard, becoming uncomfortable you basically say to Life: ‘<XYZ> is more important than my well being’.
Truth is that Nothing ever is.

We live in the culture that actually glorifies trying too hard. It makes us feel like we’re ‘special’, we have what it takes. You hear about people who give up on their sleep, their comfort so that they can ‘make it’ for whatever it takes.

What if all is actually possible without all the struggles and they are an actual obstruction to the process? And yes as long as you enjoy it’s okay to have a few challenges here and there to learn and grow from them. You would also have to give up on your origin story and your unique identity that allows you to have it.

I was considering the countless examples from my life but I guess you have yours anyway

I love Life and Life loves me